yay, singing!

I had coffee with the worship leader at our church yesterday, and took the first step toward getting involved in singing on our worship team. :) For years I have been toying with the idea of doing this - something to get back into music! But I've never had the guts to do it - cause isn't there always someone with more talent or better qualified? But the idea wouldn't let go of me, so I finally did it. And then she totally surprised me by suggesting that I come this morning and sing with the team. It was so much fun! I had a blast - there is just something about singing that makes me smile. So I am refreshed, relaxed and very excited for the next time.

masks

A dear friend recently told me that while my blog is looking quite pretty, it's a bit lacking in new material. So this one is for you, LB..

I am back into the swing of things with work, school and internship. It feels good to be moving forward again, but I am also feeling the weight of all the items on my to do list. Someone asked me recently "what refreshes you?" and I was a bit stuck to find an answer. There are things I certainly enjoy - but as to what refreshes and restores me? Short of a 10 day trip to Hawaii I was having a tough time coming up with anything. Of course there are things - a good long brisk walk, laughter, friendships, a back rub, music, a hot bath, a glass of wine, time with the Lord. Trouble is, I have a hard time making TIME for these things. My answer to stress is to put on a brave face, revel in the importance of my busyness, and press on. The result? I have a great mask that pretty consistently and conveniently shields me from the world. This is the one thing in common I have noticed as I have been seeing clients - how the inner worlds of people are truly so different from the face on the outside. I had an experience recently - my first semi crisis experience at my internship- that brought up all kinds of emotion in me. Anger, fear, regret, hope, faith, disappointment in humanity, assurance in God, doubt in myself. All wrapped around this one individual and the circumstances that for some reason I was allowed to hear about. It was (and is, since it's not really over) confusing and difficult. And it is really weird to try to process all of this while recognizing that the story isn't mine, and it is not mine to tell. Yet it does impact me so very much. And anyone reading this is probably, like - "what the heck is she talking about?" No, I don't really have a point. Just that I am wrestling through the question of what I reveal to the outside world about me, and how I get it - I get why people hold things in, why they want to be good and be okay and why it is hard to admit that there is anything but pleasant stuff going on. I'm not any better at being real than anyone else.

The Real Me (Natalie Grant)

Foolish heart, looks like we're here again.
Same old game of plastic smile,
Don't let anybody in.
Hiding my heartache,
Will this glass house break?
How much will they take before I'm empty?
Do I let it show?
Does anybody know?

CHORUS: But You see the real me.
Hiding in my skin, broken from within.
Unveil me completely.
I'm loosening my grasp,
There's no need to mask my frailty
Cause You see the real me.

Painted on, life is behind a mask,
Self-inflicted circus clown.
I'm tired of the song and dance,
Living a charade, always on parade.
What a mess I've made of my existence.
But You love me even now
And still I see somehow...

CHORUS

Wonderful, beautiful is what you see
When You look at me.
You're turning the tattered fabric of my life
Into a perfect tapestry.
Oh, I just wanna be me, I wanna be me.

CHORUS

And You love me just as I am.
Wonderful, beautiful is what You see when You look at me.

some light holiday reading

I picked up a Nicholas Sparks novel at the bookstore the other day, and was struck by these words from one of the characters:

"The saddest people I've ever met in life are the ones who don't care deeply about anything at all. Passion and satisfaction go hand in hand, and without them, any happiness is only temporary, because there's nothing to make it last."

Who knew such wisdom could come from Nicholas Sparks?

before and after

Before and after pictures of our living room (finished last summer), and our kitchen (finished last night!). All we need to do in the kitchen is replace the pantry doors to match the color of the new cupboards.

the Lord will fight for you...

As a counselor in training, one of the toughest theological issues that I face is how to reconcile the reality of pain and suffering with the character of God: loving, gracious, and powerful to do all that He is able to do. If He loves us so much, why does He allow the terrible pain that every human experiences? I confess that I could rattle off a slick answer; I have studied these doctrines in the past and we spent a good part of my theology class last night wrestling with this issue again. And I do have what I would call a head answer; a way to reconcile this seeming contradiction within myself, accounting for the biblical data while also being true to the reality and intensity of human emotion. But my prof showed us this video, a skit done to the song "Everything" by Lifehouse. And beyond any head answer I can provide, the video provided a heart answer; it illustrated my theology in a way that words cannot. I hope, if you happen to stumble across this posting, that it blesses you as much as it did me.

these boots are made for walkin'

For three years in a row now, I have pondered the purchase of tall black boots. Alas, I have either looked too late in the season, or been hesitant to pay the price. So this year, I decided I was going to do it. Sunday, after finishing a grueling theology exam, I gave myself a break and bought my early Christmas present. I know it's silly to be so excited over a pair of boots, but truly, this was a bright spot in my week. I'm wearing them today for the first time, and having so much fun!

the end is (sort of) in sight!

I met with my advisor at the seminary yesterday, to talk through scheduling for next semester. As we went through the classes I still have to take, and started to plan out when I would take each of them, I realized that I don't have as many semesters left as I had thought. It looks like I will walk in graduation ceremonies in the Spring of 2009, though I'll continue to take classes and internship through August to finish the final requirements. Crazy! That's only 5 more semesters. A little over a year and a half. If all goes smoothly, at least, which it may not. And then...? Anyone who knows me well knows what I am looking forward to most when I am done with school. Hint: they are really little, really beautiful, and are so wonderful to hold (when they are not crying).

happy halloween!

Last night between the hours of 6:30pm when we arrived home and 9pm when we decided to turn our porch lights off and blow out the candles in our jack-o-lanterns, we handed out almost 6 bags of candy to trick or treaters (David actually ran to the store to get more halfway through the evening). It was a steady stream of witches, superheros, pirates, fairies, black cats, princesses, lions, space figures, scandalously dressed girls that I was afraid to ask what their costumes were, and much much more. My particular favorite was a little 3 year old girl with blond pig-tails dressed quite believably as a cheerleader. We were also serenaded by 4 junior high boys (in full Christmas clothing) singing "Deck the Halls." They sang all the verses, and not the funny version; the real words! I told them they had skipped two holidays and went straight to Christmas, but sent them on their way with candy. It was SO much better than going to an adult Halloween party!

And, we received a picture of this little darling from my sister in law. I admit it, I'm a little baby-crazed these days. Man, I want my own little lion baby! :)

paradox and ambiguity

In group supervision on Monday we discussed the value of ambiguity. Without ambiguity, there is little motivation for decision, action or change. Life is good - or if it is not good, it is at least moving along some trajectory. It's at least easy to pretend that all is going well. But when we experience ambiguity, then we are halted. A fork in the road appears and suddenly things aren't so clear. My tendency with friends or family is to try to smooth the ambiguity out for people ("it's alright", "things will work out", "I'm sure you'll make a good decision"). In doing that, do I rob people of the value of wrestling with tough things? A lot of the time, ambiguity is what brings people in for counseling - a decision needs to be made, there is confusion over an experience, people feel stuck and don't know where to go for help. And people come to a counselor and think, "here is someone who can resolve my ambiguity." (Okay, so they probably don't think those exact words...) And I really want to do this for people! I really want to sweep in and rescue and make things better. But the thing is, it's not about me solving problems for other people. To promote growth in others, I just try to sit back and facilitate the person's process of wrestling with whatever ambiguity has them stuck. I think this is harder for me than trying to jump in and provide answers. I think that this is what God does for us, too, to some extent. When we wrestle with life, we can come to him and there is a safe place for us to rest, but he doesn't give us easy answers. He gives us his Word, His Spirit, and a community of people, but lets us learn to love him via our own struggling and wrestling with life. That must be really hard for God; to see his children embedded in the muck of life and to resist reaching in and rescuing us from all the icky stuff with one swift motion. But he knows that in rescuing us, he's halting our growth. So instead he makes himself available to us, but leaves it up to us to make our own decisions.

What I am currently wrestling with is theology! My theology class is making me think at an entirely new level that I feel unfamiliar with. So many ideas and differing opinions. I am experiencing ambiguity because I am recognizing the many paradoxes that define God; he is both majestic and above all, yet intimately involved with his creation; his Word is both a product of his own initiative, but written via human means; he is both loving and wrathful; he both knows his plans and purposes for creation, but allows himself to be dynamically involved and affected by his creation; and on and on. I think that my hope in wrestling with this ambiguity this semester is not that I will know more about God when I am done with the course in December, but that I will love him more because of what I am wrestling with.

amazing testimony

This is a great story of a young man from Australia:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USUvzKDroqM&mode=related&search=

look at this cutie!

Four weeks ago, I became an aunt (for the 8th time, but still!). Here is cutie pie Jonathan Thomas Jr. His mom sent me this picture a few days ago. Agghhh! I was honored. David says he looks exactly like his brother when he was a baby (this is my nephew on David's side of the family). Look how much hair he has! It's even naturally spiked - such a trendy kid. They are back in South Carolina, so we've haven't had a chance to see them yet, but plans are in motion for them to be out here in December, and I think they might stay with us for several days! Yay, baby staying in our house with us. Oh yeah, it will be great to see my brother in law and his wife too. :)

junior high moment

I had an experience this week that transported me back to junior high, and all the sudden I felt like a dorky, insecure 13 year old who just wants people to like her. I was so mad that one tiny little thing could make me feel this way! It's frustrating that no matter how we grow and how hard we might work on some things, a comment, a look, an attitude can transport us back 15 years. I can sit here and tell myself all day that nothing was meant by the occurrence, and it does nothing. I hate that. I believe so firmly that God cherishes me as his child, that he has gifted me and given me passions that I can use in my life for him. And I'm so grateful for the security I find in him and the assurance (and the conviction of sin, too, of course. I'm not perfect and I know that). But even with all that, it just takes a single moment, and I feel like I just stepped out of a time machine on the campus of my junior high, awkward and shy, wondering if people like me. Gracious Father, help me put things back into perspective!

the possibilities in 10 minutes

I'm adjusting to going about my day at internship in 50 minute/10 minute intervals. 50 minutes with a client, then a 10 minute break, 50 minutes with a new client, then a 10 minute break, 5o minutes with a new client... you get the idea. I've been surprised by what can be accomplished in 10 minutes; a span of time which always seemed rather short to me before entering this field. In 10 minutes, I finish making notes in the client's file while things are still fresh, put the file away, get out the next client's file and briefly remind myself of some key ideas, use the restroom, refill my water bottle, eat something substantial enough to stop my tummy from grumbling, greet the next client and tell them I'll be with them shortly, touch base briefly with another intern to encourage one another in our day... it's amazing at what this little segment of time can be used for! It never seemed so full of possibilities to me before. :)

lovely fall

I'm excited that fall is here! Pumpkin bread, pumpkin spice lattes, hearty soups and stews, crunchy leaves on the sidewalk, grass crisp with morning frost, clean fresh air, warm cozy sweaters. These are the reasons I love fall. The damp rainy weather? I can do without that. I'm hoping for lots of beautiful clear but cold sunny days. I made pumpkin bread yesterday, my first batch of the year. Not only is baking a fun Sunday afternoon activity, but two of our neighbors have been gifting us with fresh vegetables from their gardens (David and I have been secretly comparing their tomatoes to see who is a better gardener :) ), and I've been feeling for weeks that I need to give something in return! Social graces are sometimes a blessing and sometimes they feel more like a curse. In any case, I had a lovely afternoon cooking (I've been trying to make meals ahead of time on the weekends, so I don't have to do much cooking during the week), baking, and listening to country music. It was a nice change from my Friday evening and Saturday, during which I spent a collective 12 hours or so preparing a presentation for my counseling supervision class. We tape a 20 minute section of us in session with a client, and then have to transcribe it, prepare a 5 page case history, and present it to our class for them to critique us and our work. Have you ever spent hours on end listening to your own voice on tape? Oh my goodness, I was alternately cringing at how silly I sound and getting frustrated with trying to figure out how to transcribe unintelligible murmurings: Hmm, Mm-hmm, Uhmm. What a day! Glad that is behind me, though I still have to give the presentation today in class. Wow. I think I'll go treat myself to a pumpkin spice latte afterward.

diving in!

I am now resting comfortably on the other side of my first three days of internship training, and I don't even think I can tell you how exciting this week has been for me. I don't even think I realized how big this was to me. I began the whole crazy grad school process in the spring of 2004, and it was then the idea of counseling on a college campus was first planted in my mind. Now, THREE years later, a completely different me is actually seeing the realization of this idea. God has brought about some tremendous changes in me in the last three years, and maybe these changes are noticeable to only me and a few people close to me. But what stands out most to me is God's faithfulness - even and especially in the midst of my doubting, his wisdom in bringing me through the valleys rather than across smooth plains, his goodness, his provision, his patience. I am thankful for these moments in my faith journey where the truth that Scripture promises becomes a tangible entity I can see in my own life circumstances, and not mere words to comfort me through life's ups and downs. Not that Scripture is ever "mere words".

2 Thessalonians 1:11 says "With this in mind, we constantly pray for you, that our God would count you worthy of his calling, and that by his power he may fulfill every good purpose of yours and every act prompted by your faith." I read this verse right before beginning classes in the MFT program, and felt it jump out to me in a way that I felt this verse was for me personally. Things didn't turn out the way that I expected; I certainly did not feel that my good purposes or acts prompted by faith were fulfilled. But today I was reminded that answers to prayer don't come overnight or instantaneously. Promises are not fulfilled in one big action or in the way that is anticipated or planned. And goodness, I'm only three days in and literally hundreds of hours away from a degree; it's not like I'm done or have arrived at my destination. And, I am likely in for some pretty tough challenges and may have to change course again. But there is something in these words for me, they keep surfacing and resurfacing, and the more I meditate on these, the more truth I see. I'm overcome with gratitude that God has called me his own. And now I'm just rambling, but you just don't understand how great the water has felt and how exciting it was to be able to dive in to this adventure.